“Perfect friendship is the friendship of men who are good, and alike in virtue; for these wish well alike to each other qua good, and they are good themselves. Now those who wish well to their friends for their sake are most truly friends; for they do this by reason of own nature and not incidentally; therefore their friendship lasts as long as they are good — and goodness is an enduring thing.” Aristotle
In J.R.R. Tolkien’s classic, the Lord of the Rings, Frodo has considerable help and encouragement from the fellowship that helps him accomplish his task to destroy the ring in Mordor. With the support and encouragement of friends and companions, Frodo is able to live for greatness and rise way above his potential. It is absolutely vital for Christians to have a healthy and strong sense of fellowship.
The help and constancy of friends helps to challenge, inspire and give ourselves to one another. A close community is able to prevent its members being stabbed in the back as each member protects the back of one another. Even in the workplace, taking pastoral care of others in the office or praying together can help find the chance for simple fellowship.
Happiness is like building a house. We start with the foundations, getting them in place by digging them deep. Then, we work with the ground floor. The better the stability of the building, the longer and firmer the house will be. He who builds his house shabbily will see it collapse when challenges come along.
There is a great difference between true love and modern world’s view on love. It is important in a culture of weak moral values, it is important to be proud to be different. You are not the one who is weird. Love to be different. Friendship is so important in building stable relationships. Life is so rich with good friends. There are so few people out there who are truly happy. But those people who are happy are very attractive and appealing in their happiness. Our bodies have a calling to express love. We are created to love God, and to transmit life and love in our lives to others.
Aristotle says in the Nicomachean Ethics that the best form of friendship is wishing the good of another in mutual and recognized love. It says that those who love for the sake of utility love for the sake of what is good for themselves. Friendship is something that requires time and familiarity.
Friendship based on utility is for the commercially minded. But the friendship of utility is full of complaints; for as they use each other for their own interests. Most people seem, owing to ambition, to wish to be loved rather than to love. Another question that arises is whether friendships should or should not be broken off when the other party does not remain the same.